Underneath all the distress, partners are asking each other: can I count on you? Are you there
for me? Will you respond to me when I need, when I call? Do I matter to you? Am I valued and
accepted by you? Do you need me, rely on me? — Dr. Sue Johnson.
- Do you feel alone and isolated in your relationship, as if you’re drifting apart?
- Has your relationship left you feeling like a nag, because you just aren’t being heard?
- Does it seem like no matter how hard you try, you can’t get anything right for your partner?
It’s not unusual for couples to get stuck in painful cycles of disconnection – that feeling that you
are getting into the same fight over and over again without ever resolving the underlying
conflict. Emotionally Focused Therapy, a highly effective, evidence-based couples therapy, can
help you gain clarity on the reactive patterns that are resulting in high levels of distress for both
you and your partner.
Rooted in neurobiology and attachment theory, the EFT model prioritizes emotion and
emotional regulation as the primary organizing agents in individual experience in key
relationship interactions. Once the EFT therapist has helped you identify your patterns, you will
work to build safety and trust in your relationship so that you can access and share your
emotions and needs with one another. Studies show that 70 to 75% of couples who go through
EFT therapy move from distress to recovery, and about 90% show significant improvement.
